It starts with you
Basically, my problems were shyness and not knowing how to approach
women.
I
had never been on a date until I was 24. I had a couple of pretty big
infatuations in high school and university; in both cases the girl just
wanted to stay friends, but I kept hoping that something might change
so I
remained closed off to other possibilities, thus wasting a lot of time
and
contributing to my accumulating inexperience. A mistake which I will
never
repeat.
In the end, it was a combination of little things. For one thing,
feeling
better about myself physically. I was never really into sports until a
few
years ago. At 5'10, 135lb (178cm/61kg), I'm a pretty wiry fellow.
Slowly I
took up cycling, multisport racing, and I started learning how to cook
good
healthy stuff to properly "fuel the engine". Result? I'm still pretty
thin,
but I get the occasional comment about my muscular legs, and I *feel*
great
about myself. I no longer wish I had a "better" body -- I like myself
the
way I am, and that's all that matters (the fact that my girlfriend
finds me
hot is a nice bonus too ;
Wanting it bad enough, good advice from this list, and a little bit of
luck
were the other ingredients. Wanting it bad -- I made the effort to go
to
singles night and speed dating events, even if they didn't work out at
first. Of course it's not just a matter of going -- you have to go with
the
proper attitude, and at least a little bit of confidence! Luck -- the
girl
of my dreams just happened to be there one of those nights. Of course I
didn't know this when I first met her, but we are both now realizing
that we
are, well, pretty much perfect for each other. It's amazing how many
things
we have in common, yet at the same time we're quite different.
I
wouldn't
have thought there could be someone like that out there for me. There's
no
reason why there wouldn't be anyone like that out there for you, and if
you're open to that possibility then it should only be a matter of
time.
