Hi.  You seemed to want to collect data about people with this "condition," so I thought I'd share with you my few experiences, and what I feel my problems are, and whatnot.

Well, it started off with parents who were not at all affectionate with each other.  They loved me, and that was obvious, but they didn't love each other.  I'm sure it had a serious impact on my inability to form romantic relationships, even though I'm desperate not to end up alone or like them.  My father would try to kiss my mother, and she would say "get away!" and things of that nature.  My father never stopped trying, but my mom never appreciated his advances.  Identifying with my father, maybe I felt she was telling me to get away, or that if I tried to express interest in a female (not like my dad, though, even *I* am smoother than my dad) that I would be met with a similar sort of attitude or reaction.

In any case, throughout my life, I've tended to overcompensate for this by becoming strongly attached very easily.  I don't have any friends of the opposite sex, because I fall in love with them all.  Every time.  Despite being so strongly attached, I always tried to maintain an appearance of being completely asexual.  It's more of a compulsion, not something I feel I have control over.  I have the eye contact problem - maybe I'm afraid of initiating an encounter with someone, maybe I'm just afraid of being humiliated, or having the other person think I'm a psycho, or some other strong negative reaction.  When I speak directly to someone, even "strangers,"  I can look them in the eyes, but I have to make a major effort to do so.  I tend to shy away from social situations, parties, places where I might be able to meet females.  If "forced" into such a situation, I just sit in one place and simultaneously hope both that no one notices me, and that someone will come and pay attention to me. If and when someone DOES pay attention to me, I tend to be curt, quiet, exceedingly mild, and at a complete loss for words, very much unlike how I am with friends that I am comfortable with.

I've had 3 experiences with females in my life (I'm 21)...  the first one was 10th grade, where I was good friends with an 11th grader, and I fell in love.  I tried to hide, suppress it until I was unable to contain myself any longer, and told her how I felt.  She ran away, as I expected, and the friendship dissolved.  Another friendship dissolved when I found she was going out with my best friend at the time, a month or two later...  That was my first experience, and I always feel odd thinking about it. The second one was more promising, one of my friends actually developed a corresonding interest in me, but this was about a month before she moved to the other side of the country.