i am 28, male and invcel. i believe the main reasons for this are as follows.

1. lack of opportunity.

2. religious family....their attitudes towards sex discouraged me from dating.

3. appearance...i thought girls would be turned off if i took my shirt off.

4. shyness...i don't think i learned as much about socializing as i should have. i think it is strange that i don't tell girls what i am feeling.

5. i was the youngest of my brothers and always treated like a baby. i had no sisters so maybe that made it hard to relate to women.

i felt like i was going through life without any instuctions but i have learned a lot the last few months. i used to fall in love with any girl who would say hello to me but now i understand signals better and i don't think i've missed many opportunities. i used to think i had to find my perfect soulmate and i couldn't date the wrong girl, but now i see this as an excuse to avoid relationships altogether. when the girl from the singles club turned me down i thought i would be devastated but now i know she wasn't my type and i'm relieved. i also gained confidence from having the strength to try. i have found that popular girls make me more nervous than more sedate ones. i can have more success by not going after Pamela Anderson.