Hints from a mailing list member, for the many incels who feel constant muscular tension.

1. Learn to march.  I was in marching band in high school, and by my
senior year, I was one of the best marchers in the band.  Either high
step (like a traditional marching band) or glide step (controlled
walk, like most of the US military bands) will help.  Get someone who
knows how to march to help you, I can't teach through e-mail.

2. Meditate.  Zen meditation, yoga, or tai chi chuan (or even better,
all three) will get you more in touch with your body.  This is
indisputable, it's not some new-age bullshit.  I'm a highly rational,
analytical thinker (aka math major <g>), and I consider myself a
Buddhist.  Modern psychology is still far behind where Buddhism was
thousands of years ago.

3. Learn to walk without making a sound.  Wear sneakers or moccasins
and try different ways of walking until you can walk on a reasonable
surface (unlike gravel <g>) and be drowned out by any other noise,
including the sound of someone else walking.  This is related to
glide-step marching.

4. Count sixteenth notes when you walk (hmm, this all gets back to
glide-step marching, doesn't it?).  1-e-and-a, 2-e-and-a, 3-e-and-a,
and so on, with your left foot hitting the ground the instant you
think or say an odd number and your right foot hitting the ground the
instant you think or say an even number.  Make sure you're counting
regularly.  For more information on this and other benefits of
incorporating music and rhythm into your daily life, read The Mozart
Effect.  I guarantee it will change your life.

Don't expect instant results, I started to learn to walk silently when
I was 8 and only a few years ago did it become completely automatic.
And ask any marching band member how long it takes to learn to march
perfectly!  It's a slow process, but it's easily worth the trouble.
Meditation will help you in countless other ways, too.