Incel people are using many strategies, including the following, to overcome their difficulties with relationships. (None of these have been proven scientifically, just anecdotally. Not all will apply in everyone's case.)

• Talk to someone about being celibate
• Solve the other problems in your life first (e.g. depression, unemployment, loneliness)
• Move out of the parental nest (or otherwise establish your independence)
• Take better care of your body (e.g. lose weight, dress well)
• Get psychotherapy or other counselling (cognitive therapy is useful in many cases)
• Take prescription drugs for depression and anxiety problems
• Read about relationships and sexuality
• Visit a prostitute or sex surrogate

Check out the Links page for information on many of these strategies.

Here is one person's list of objectives:

1.  Get a job.
2.  Resolve previous relationships or attempted relationships.
3.  Get my own apartment.
4.  Lose weight.
5.  Know what I want and where to look for it.
6.  Become completely comfortable with who I am.
7.  Eradicate negative thoughts and try to find happiness in myself.
8.  Gain confidence and develop social skills (especially with respect to dating).
9.  Read a good variety of dating books.  Learn the tricks, or at the very least, what *not* to do.